Friday, March 13th was much like any other day for me. Despite its association with bad luck, I am a Friday the 13th baby and, therefore, have always considered it to be a fortuitous day. Though I had been closely following the rise of the global Coronavirus pandemic, and my institution had just announced its plans to move to fully online learning for the two weeks that would follow, I was still planning to live life as normally (though safely) as possible.
I spent the morning working, then went to a yoga class where everyone was talking about the Coronavirus (one regular attendee who is asthmatic said that she had just been to her asthma doctor that morning and he told her she had nothing to worry about; that Corona is like the flu, and we are all going to get it at some point. I was deeply annoyed at this doctor for spreading the “it’s just like the flu” misinformation. And his prediction felt both reassuring and terrifying at the same time), more work after this, then therapy, then to the co-op where I stocked up on frozen pizzas, and to the Price chopper where I stocked up on beer.
Despite the fact that shoppers at the coop were already wearing masks and gloves, I still felt jovial, as I chatted with the cashier and bagger about quarantine hoarding priorities. As well informed as I consider(ed) myself, the whole quarantine/haz mat suits/overwhelmed hospitals/lack of PPE/and so on scenario felt still like a distant reality in that moment. Something that would happen someday but not quite yet. Even though at this point we had Coronavirus in New York state and two confirmed cases in Albany County, it still felt to me like something that happened elsewhere to someone else. I knew it was coming for us, and I took seriously the threats. D and I had been slowly stocking up on medicines, chocolate chips, and other necessities for weeks prior. I wasn’t unprepared, but I was in denial. As I lugged my beer and frozen pizza into the house for a relaxing Friday evening at home, I had no idea that I had just lived my last typical day. I had no idea that I had just seen that yoga instructor and that asthmatic yoga regular for the last time for the foreseeable future. No idea that I wouldn’t see the inside of the co-op for another two weeks. No idea that was my last therapy session for who knows how long.
By that afternoon they had canceled Levi’s school for at least a week, but we all knew that these week(s) long cancelations were simply placeholders–ways for folks to gently break the news without creating too much panic; ways to buy time for institutions and businesses to figure out longer term, more sustainable ways to survive closures. I’ll admit that I welled up a bit when the nursery school director delivered the news to me that Friday afternoon almost three weeks ago, and yet I still didn’t quite “get it.” It’s hard to wrap your head around an experience for which you have no frame of reference.
And so…the next day we woke up with plans to attend a birthday party for one of Levi’s classmates that afternoon. By then I was smart enough to have decided that I would give up my Saturday morning Bfitt class at the gym and went for a run outdoors instead. After that, we headed to a local bookstore for birthday gift shopping and, more importantly, wrapping. Two more stops on the way back home: Price Chopper (again…) and the local bakery. Life felt fairly typical, until I stepped out of the shower that afternoon.
When I got out of my shower, I had a text from the birthday boy’s mom–they were canceling the party. I felt it was a wise decision, and yet, I was deflated all the same. Here we had a little boy, gift in hand, ready and excited to go to his friend’s birthday party. To keep things fun and somewhat normal we made the quick decision to head to a maple sugaring open house at a nearby environmental education center. We quickly threw the last minute invite out to our group of friends and some met us there. We spent the afternoon walking trails and learning about maple syrup production, but unlike last year’s event there were no samples allowed, and while the parking lot was filled with cars, people weren’t in groups for the most part, altering the overall feel. It was quiet and a bit eerie. Upon parting ways with our friends that day, we made tentative plans to meet outside for another outdoor adventure the next day, but that night D and I made the decision that we needed to be more aggressive about physical distancing. And so once again, without knowing it in the moment, we had spent our last (face-to-face) day with friends for the foreseeable future.
Sunday, March 15th (the Ides of March…) became our first day of self-isolation. Like many folks the world over, we have been busy taking on the small learning curve of living in this new way: figuring out ways to get groceries and necessary household amenities, scheduling FaceTime and zoom encounters for our kids, juggling working full time from home while having a five year old home full time as well, trying to find hope and laughter and light amidst fear and stress and panic.
Today marks day 21. In many ways it doesn’t feel like three weeks. Like pre-pandemic life, the days are long, but the weeks aren’t quite so much. But sometimes I think about the freedom of movement and the blissful ignorance I still carried on that Friday the 13th in March, and I am overcome with a range of emotions: loss, fear, disbelief, relief, hope. I cannot find a way to understand all that has happened in the interim three weeks, and I certainly cannot find my way back to the woman joking about frozen pizza and chocolate chips in the line at the co-op.